हम जो हर वक़्त यूं ही मुस्कुराते रहते हैं...

हम जो हर वक़्त यूं ही मुस्कुराते रहते हैं,
इस तरह दर्द को दुनिया से छुपाते रहते हैं,
भूल के भी किसी से दिल की बात न कहना यहाँ,
लोग यहाँ ज़ख्मों पर तीर चलते रहते हैं|
अपना समझा के जिसको भी हमराज़ बनाया दिल ने,
उसके ही हाथों से हम चोट खाते रहते हैं,
अब तो आसमान से भी पत्त्थर बरसते हैं सिर पे,
रोज डर डर के हम घर से निकला करते हैं,
अब तो ये दिल रोज़ ही बारिश कि दुआ करता है, क्यूंकि
पहचान में नहीं आते आंसू, जो बारिश में बहते हैं |

दिल ने उनसे गिला नहीं किया...

के जिनसे खायी चोट, दिल ने उनसे गिला नहीं किया,
दुआ है कि हमारी तरह, ना कभी उनका दिल टूटे|
हमें तो चोट खाने की आदत सी है लेकिन,
कभी होठों से उनके,हंसी का दामन ना छूटे|
जिन्होंने सितम करने में,न छोड़ी है कसार कोई,
खुदाया उनपे कभी भी, ना कोई सितम टूटे |

Benaam Sa Ye Dard

Benaam Sa Ye Dard, Thehar Kyon Nahi Jata,
Jo Beet Gaya Hai, Woh Guzar Kyon Nahi Jata,
Sab Kuch To Hai, Kya Dhundti Rahti Hai Nigahe,
Kya Baat Hai Main Waqt Pe Ghar Kyon Nahi Jata,
Woh Ek Hi Chera To, Nahi Sare Jahan Mein,
Jo Dur Hai Woh Dil Se Utar Kyon Nahi Jata,
Main Apni Hi Uljhi Hui Raho Ka Tamasha,
Jate Hain Jidhar Sab, Main Udhar Kyon Nahi Jata,
Woh Naam Jo Barso Se, Na Chehra Na Badan Hai,
Woh Khawaab Agar Hai To Bikhar Kyo Nahi Jata

Ab dard mein bhi sakoon aata hai!

Tu khush rahe to mein muskuraunga
Kahin bhi ho tu, tujhe naa bhulaunga
Mere ghum ka tu dard naa lena?
Ke is dard mein bhi mein sakoon paunga
Jaa ke tu khoja unn haseen wadiyon mein
Na tujhe in andhere mein bulaunga
Tu khush rahe to hee mein jee paunga
Ke is dard mein bhi sakoon paunga !!!
Jaa chali jaa durr is ghane kohre se
Khule asma mein tere geet gungunaunga
Tu khush rahe to hee mein chain paunga
Ke is dard mein bhi sakoon paunga !!!

Jo guzari hai hampe woh kisi aur pe naa guzre

Jo guzari hai hampe woh kisi aur pe naa guzre
Umer bhar hamari tarah koi khushi ko na tarse
Meri qismat mein gar gurbat hai tau koi ghum nahi
Meri himmat naa toote bas itna karam ker de
Dard ki intha se bhi mein waaqif hu magar phir bhi
Bahut dukhte hain kabhi kabhi ye zakhm dil ke
Ik kasak si hai dil mein jo mitne ko nahi aati
Ki mujhi per kyun khatam hain sitam zamane bhar ke

मोहब्बत

कभी होती थी शाम उनके साथ
वो आये जो मुक्कदर में मेरे

अनमोल वो पल थे सबसे अच्छे
वो रात दिन ख्वाबो में तेरे

न मुलाकाते है न दीदार है अब तो
बदले बदले से है खुदा वो मेरे

ना जाने किस की नजर लगी हमें
ना जाने क्या कमी थी मोहब्बत में मेरे

वो गए तो तूफ़ान से बच न पाये
रह गए वो ख्वाब अधूरे मेरे

मगर इलाही कयामत हम भी है
वो आएगी मोहब्बत ज़िन्दगी में मेरे

इश्क का दम इतना हम भी भरते है
रहेगा इन्तेजार उनका आखों में मेरे

फूल बरसे, जिन राहों से भी वो गुजरे
रात दिन यही दुआ है खुदा से मेरे

भूल न पायेंगे हम वो हँसी यादे
वो लौट के आयेगे यकीं है इस दिल को मेरे

होती है मोहब्बत में हार अक्सर
मगर यकीं नहीं तुम न थे किस्मत में मेरे

सिलसिले यूँ चलते हैं ....

मौका तो ख़ुशी का हैं
पर न जाने क्या कमी हैं
थाम लेना इस वक्त को
महफ़िल तो अब जमी हैं

कुछ रोज पहले यही पर
परिंदे कही से आये थे
छू लेंगे आसमानों को
सपने आँखों में लाये थे

बिछुड़ जाने के लिए
मिलाया था जिनको
साजिश थी वक्त की
सफ़र करना हैं उनको

साहिल को इंतजार है
लहर से मिल जाने का
पर रेत को हैं शिकायत
छोड़कर उसके चले जाने का

चंदा भी बेचैन हैं
मुश्किल में तारे हैं
सूरज की आहट हैं
फिर भी साथ सारे हैं

न शिकवा न शिकायत
साथ ये कैसा हैं
न रुठोगे न मनायेंगे
रिश्ता ये ऐसा हैं

सबसे अच्छे हंसी पल
कितनी प्यारी बाते हैं
कैसे भूल सकते हैं
दिल में वो यादें हैं

मिलते हैं बिछुड़ते है
कभी बिछुड़ कर मिलते है
अजीब हैं ये ज़िन्दगी
सिलसिले यूँ चलते हैं

तू जीना सीख ले

तू रोना नहीं
हँसना सीख ले
ज़िन्दगी आसान तो नहीं
तू जीना सीख ले

हारा नहीं इन्सां अब तक
तू सहना सीख ले
मुश्किलें तो आयेंगी
तू लड़ना सीख ले

तुम अकेले तो नहीं
नजर उठा के देख ले
हर शख्स यहाँ घायल हैं
तू करीब जा के देख ले

मुश्किलों को पसीने आयेंगे
अगर तू मुस्कुराना सीख ले
और आँसुओ को कफन कर
आँखों में दफन करना सीख ले

दिलवाले

आज एक सपना टूटा
मैं एक और देखूगां
हर बार हैं ये टूटा
मैं बार-बार देखूगां

वो हो रही मुझसे जुदा
मैं कैसे दिल को समझाऊ
हैं खुदा मुझसे रूठा
मैं कैसे उसको मनाऊ

दिन में सहमा रहता हूँ
रात को चाँद होता हैं
सपनो में खोया रहता हूँ
तेरा ही दीदार होता हैं

मैं जाम पीता नहीं हूँ
वों नजरे पिला जाती हैं
वों मुझसे दूर नहीं हैं
ये अहसास दिला जाती हैं

मैं करता रहूँगा इकरार
वों तो करेंगे इन्कार
यूँ ही बढता हैं प्यार
दिल को मेरे हैं ऐतबार

रस्ते अलग हो जायेंगे
ऐसा होना तो नहीं था
वों मुझसे दूर हो जायेंगे
ऐसा कभी सोचा नहीं था

एक आस पूरी हो जाये
और ये वक्त बदल जाये
फिर एक करिश्मा हो जाये
मेरा उसका मिलन हो जाये

बिछुड़ कर जो हैं मिले
वों किस्मत वाले हैं
जरुरी नहीं किं हम मिले
हम तो दिलवाले हैं

वक़्त तो लगता है

प्यार का पहला ख़त लिखने में वक़्त तो लगता है,

नए परिंदों को उड़ने में वक़्त तो लगता है|

जिस्म कि बात नहीं थी उन के दिल तक जाना था 

लम्बी दूरी तय करने में वक़्त तो लगता है|

गाँठ अगर लग जाये तो फिर रिश्ते हो या डोरी, 

लाख करें कोशिश, खुलने में वक़्त तो लगता है|

हमने इलाज-ए-ज़ख्म-ए-दिल तो ढूंढ लिया लेकिन,

गहरे ज़ख्मों को भरने में वक़्त तो लगता है|

How to accept responsibility for your mistakes

Everyone knows that person who is always looking for a place to lay the blame. We listen, sometimes patiently, sometimes with a subtle eye roll or a tense set to our jaw, as they complain about anything and everything and never seem to realize that they are, in fact, responsible for most (and sometimes all) of their own misfortune.

We live in a culture that practically forces perfection. We are terrified of making mistakes. Robert T. Kiyosaki, in his book If You Want to Be Rich and Happy Don't go to School, explains this at length.

We agreed [he writes] to meet in a couple of weeks. The day we got together again, I met his family and asked his children about school.
"What was the last test you took?" I asked his daughter.
"History," she stated.
"How many questions were there?"
"About 100."
"Well, how did you do?"
"I got a B, 85 right answers out of 100."
"So you missed 15?"
"Yes."
"What caused you to miss 15?"
"I don't know."
"Do you know what the 15 mistakes were?"
"No. But I don't really care. What I care about is the ones I had right."
His friend's daughter didn't care about learning from her mistakes, only about being right. This makes two excellent points:

• We are not encouraged to learn from our mistakes
• We are taught that being right is more important.

As a result, I believe we learn from a very young age that it is better to shift the blame to someone or something else than risk being imperfect.

This, I further believe, results in a dishonest society (think corporate bailouts and the stereotypical lying politician).

If we stopped pressuring our children to be perfect and started teaching them to feel safe in saying "All right, I screwed up, how can I fix it?" we would likely live in a better world. This, I think, even results in better decision makers and people who take more initiative, because they are less afraid to act (or stick to their decisions). There is less fear of screwing up.

I did not fail a hundred times, said Thomas Edison. I found 100 ways not to create a light bulb.

In order to accept responsibility for your mistakes, you must treat them as learning experiences.

Of course, in some instances, people make very serious mistakes which are sometimes called felonies and misdemeanors (a joke, if you don't mind).

Some mistakes are harder to own up to, but very often the only redeeming feature of these mistakes is whether or not you can be a big enough person to admit that it was your fault and correct whatever behavior led to it.

If your mistake is one of the big ones, think of it as the first step towards redemption.

If your mistake is a huge one -- perhaps a felony, as mentioned above -- you may not even see a reason to take responsibility and seek redemption.

Here's my take:

In the Christian faith, it is believed that there is nothing you can do that is so horrible you can never be forgiven.

Now, before you click away or close your browser, keep in mind that I am not trying to make this a religious article or "push" my faith on anyone.

My point is that Christians believe God is the ultimate good. Now,

• if God is supposed to believe that no mistake is too great for forgiveness, then

• it stands to reason that forgiveness is also good, which, to me, means that

• even a person with no religious denomination could deduce that forgiveness is a good quality to possess.

Therefore, there is no reason to push a society into believing that making mistakes is totally unacceptable.

Unfortunately, we do not live in that world. The world is notoriously unforgiving. Still, we must learn, if only for our own sanity, to stop blame-shifting and being unsure of our decisions because we may we wrong.

There is a kind of freedom in taking the helm; in taking responsibility for the course of your own life.

Then again, this must be balanced by our ability to admit we may be wrong, which is actually another way of taking responsibility for our mistakes.

In the end, accepting responsibility for your mistakes depends on the mistake.

In a failing marriage, it may mean taking a closer look at what you are doing (or not doing) to contribute to the problem. Same with a failing career, or with a troubled parent-child relationship.

Are you really listening, or are you so certain you're right that you've shut out any other possibilities?

Are you suspicious of your spouse or your child or your boss, but you've got no proof of the "offense"?

In one of those criminal mistakes, it may mean taking a look at what kind of personal problems you have that led you to do whatever it is you did. Are you a substance abuser? Do you suffer from emotional problems?

And there's another one: if you are or you do, you must learn to stop blaming others for these problems. Maybe you were abused or neglected as a child. Those are terrible things, but the fact is you are old enough to think for yourself and understand right from wrong even from a very young age.

Accepting responsibility for these things does not mean pretending those things didn't happen, but it does mean being mature enough to let the irresponsibility that caused them to end with you.

In closing, accepting responsibility:

Look at yourself, and how you are contributing to your own issues. You will have to remind yourself, over and over, to do this when you start to point the finger at others (trust me, I know). It is a hard habit to break.

Know when you are wrong, and say it. Deal with the consequences. It will make you a stronger, steadier, saner person.

And finally, it means changing the way we treat our children, our students, and each other. Learn to forgive, so that others will be more willing and able to accept responsibility for their mistakes.

Don’t Carry the Donkey

Once a father and his son were passing through the market with their donkey. The father sat on the donkey and the boy preferred to walk.
As they traveled, on-lookers said: “How terrible. A big strong man like that riding while the poor boy has to walk.”
So the father got off and he let the boy ride. Then people said: “How disrespectful. The father walks while his son rides.”
So they both got on the back of the donkey. And then people said: “How cruel. Two people riding on that poor donkeys back.”
So they both got off the donkey and started walking on foot. People said: “How foolish. Both of them walk while a perfectly healthy donkey has nothing on his back.”
The man and boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and thought, and eventually found themselves carrying the donkey to their shoulders and made them looking foolish.
This thoughtful story by Jim Dornan, clearly tells “You can’t please all. Listen to all, think it over but decide yourself what is the best on that particular time and situation. Your decisions should not be based on what others has to say about it as every other person has different opinions.

Don’t carry the donkey. Please all, and you will please none.”

Your life is not a coincidence, it’s a reflection of you!

A son and his father were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, the son falls, hurts himself and screams: “AAh!!!”
To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating,
somewhere in the mountain: “AAh!!!”
Curious, he yells: “Who are you?”
He receives the answer: “Who are you?”
Angered at the response, he screams: “Coward!”
He receives the answer: “Coward!”
He looks to his father and asks: “What’s going on?”
The father smiles and says: “My son, pay attention.”
And then he screams to the mountain: “I admire you!”
The voice answers: “I admire you!”
Again the man screams: “You are a champion!”
The voice answers: “You are a champion!”
The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
Then the father explains: “People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.

It gives you back everything you say or do. 
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions. 
 If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart. 
If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence. This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life; 
Life will give you back everything you have given to it.